April 24, 2019

  • I believe in self-determination

  • I believe in personal sovereignty

  • I believe relationships and connection are the only things that ultimately matter on this plane

  • I believe that we are social animals and that our need for connection is greater than ou...

April 1, 2019

One of the biggest reasons I do marital mediation is because I was looking for someone like me when I was going through a long patch of couple conflict. We tried marital therapy, couples’ counseling, discernment processes, and just plain grit. None of it mattered becau...

July 31, 2018

Most people think of mediation as a route for property disputes and the divorce alternative to the expense of lawyers and family law court, but what if mediation was your new go-to for working through conflict and discovering new skills in communication and deepening i...

July 25, 2018

DIV Design Agency offers a type of couples' facilitation of difficult conversations to benefit what Amy Baker calls the trinity of relational life: Self, Other, and the Relationship Itself. Here are some questions she has gotten from clients that they said would have b...

July 24, 2018

Words, words, words, I'm so sick of words.
~Eliza Doolittle

So we get married or get coupled to be together and share rent and other living expenses, and then someday we think we’ll have some kids and we will feel like we’ve accomplished what we set out to do. Then one...

July 24, 2018

​What makes your relationship good? Not when you compare it to others, but when you look at it as one of the three structures of your relational identity?

It is difficult for many in the United States to look at Relationship today and say for them what it is about their...

May 25, 2018

Most of the cases I mediate are family law cases. I am not an attorney. I am not a therapist. I am not a social worker. I am a social scientist who researches family sociology and developmental psychology. As a mediator, I am not acting as an expert. Certainly, I am ne...

April 9, 2018

I have long believed that mediation has the potential to heal--heal relationships, heal the Self, heal the Other.

Mediation is ultimately facilitated dialogue by a Neutral. The Neutral is only thus in the context of the Clients' issue because the mediator is typically v...

March 6, 2018

What does it mean to mediate?

My clients usually think mediation means winning or losing, or that everyone is going to be a little unhappy at the end because that's what compromise is.

I'd like to reframe the discussion and the mindset, if you please.

The truth of mediati...

December 31, 2017

When capturing the romance and nostalgia of a bygone era, no one does it better than Norman Rockwell, especially in the hazy reality of memory aided by the memorabilia of The Saturday Evening Post. How did Rockwell, as Jack Perkins of Biography put it, “become for 60 y...

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